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Marriage and the Fear of Commitment
Marriage and the Fear of Commitment Many years ago my wife and I were surprised when a friend announced that she and her long time boyfriend broke-up. They were together for Read more
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The Tragedy of Domestic Violence
Case Study: Many years ago, when I was writing for Mentalhelp.net I received an anonymous Email, from a woman asking for advice about the following situation: She married a divorced man who had three Read more
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Pornography, Why, When You Have a Partner?
Why would someone turn to pornography when there are live and warm partners available with whom they can have sexual relations? Although it's possible to argue that not everyone has Read more
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Pornography, Is It Extramarital Sex?
While research shows that there are women who enjoy watching pornography as much as some men, there are many more women, those who are married or in relationships, who are Read more
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On Life and Being Mindful
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." ~Robert Brault Early in my career, I was a school teacher. One of Read more
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Men Who Hate Women and the Power of Denial
Misogynist: "Someone, usually a man, who hates women or believes that men are much better than women." Cambridge Dictionary Harriet was married for ten years before she realized that her husband was Read more
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Aging and The Meaning of Life
"We do not exist for ourselves." Thomas Merton My family, friends and I have just celebrated my 73rd birthday. That number, 73, made me stop and think about the passage of Read more
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Understanding How ADHD Complicates Marriage
The divorce rate in the United States is approximately 50% for new marriages, clearly reflecting how difficult intimate relationships can be. However, when one or both spouses are burdened with Adult Read more
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Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?
One of the assessment techniques I use in couples/marriage therapy is to ask each member of the couple to identify their best friend. In my findings, those who answer that Read more
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Unhealthy Family Dynamics, The Dangers of Silence
I grew up in a family where a favorite form of punishment and manipulation was to stop talking to the person with whom you are angry. Some perceived sense of Read more
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The Dysfunctional Family and the Role fo the Scape Goat
The Narcissist and his/her Child: "Narcissists are master projectors. No-one is better at looking directly at a person and seeing not who that person is, but who they wish for them Read more
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Coping with Divorce and Dealing with Children
Divorce is a painful and traumatic experience for everyone involved. Unfortunately, more than fifty percent of American marriages end in divorce. http://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/ The wounds and scars left by the experience Read more
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You're All Good, He's All Back: Splitting
The term, “defense mechanism” was first defined and elaborated by Sigmund Freud. It is a way the mind has of protecting us from overwhelming anxiety. Consequently, it is part of the type Read more